relationsip status: in a relationship? its complicated? engaged? married?

Instead of writing about a person which i hate or which i love, i prefer to write generally... from the eyes of this smoker... I've been in few relationship and still did not understand it, what does a partner want from the other? Is it the security? financially? love? or lust..? I often believed that every time i dated a new girl, and we're in a relationship... in my heart I'm gonna say that "she's the one" without second thoughts... why? i mean come on... i believe its not just me who think that way... most people in relationship must be thinking this way, which "you jump, i jump", "till death do us part" bullshit... or maybe i didn't met with one yet...

This is what i want to talk about... how do we know if he/she is the one? for me... The girl i want to marry is when i felt... she's the first one i want to see in the morning, she is the one i want to spent my life with, she is the one i would die for and blah..blah..blah.. but there's a thing, i don't want to get married in a year or two so that is why i don't want to have serious relationship, because serious relationship is suppose to be naturally, it take time and not planned! because most people said it in the very beginning of a relationship, "i want to get serious with her/him" or "this is it" without even know him or her truly... (this is what i saw)...

My point is... "jodoh di tangan Allah!" so no need to rush things up, plus... what a relationship is without surprise... it must go naturally like at first we like each other, we dating, if it is failed say goodbye! if it is success go on to next level! there is your surprise people.. because we never knew what to expect from a relationship... when we're at dating process, try to know him/her likes and dislike but make sure they know yours too! we gotta be selfish sometime people!

But... there's a but! some people never know why we dump a person... they only think we are playa/mean/jerk haha... (however this is true sometime) maybe they just can't take that they are not meant to be together and for me if that girl is not right for me... i dump her! not for showing off that i can get another girl or something but it is for my self... for the sake of ME! (^_^)...

After the break up, moving on is the next part of relationship... for me moving on is not getting a new girl as soon as possible just to show it off to your ex! its the way u handle the break up... most of the person who got dumped might think, "oh he/she dumped me... he/she must got someone else!" why must you think of that way? in some occasions yes! but there other reason... might be " you sucks!" haha... kidding! maybe it is better that way...